Do everything without complaining or arguing – Philippians 2:14
Nobody like a complainer. Or an arguer either.
Arguments often spring from pride, from the desire to be right even over small or unimportant matters. Instead of listening or sharing in someone else’s perspective, we can slip into negativity and quarrel just for the sake of it.
As followers of Jesus, we are called to love. Before speaking, it helps to pause and remember His love for the other person. Approaching a conversation with gentleness and understanding opens the door to peace. If someone always wants to argue, the solution is simple—do not argue back. Without two voices quarreling, there can be no fight.
Choosing Gentleness Over Quarreling
The Bible teaches us to respond with kindness and patience. When we refuse to argue, we demonstrate humility and reflect Christ’s love. This not only calms situations but also shows others a better way to live and relate. A soft answer can turn away anger and point people toward God’s peace.
The Trap of Complaining
Complaining is just as discouraging as arguing. It rarely inspires anyone and usually leaves people feeling weighed down. At its root, complaining comes from selfishness and pride. We feel entitled to better treatment or think we should be spared from difficulties. This attitude keeps us from experiencing gratitude for what God has already provided.
Remembering God’s Goodness
When complaints rise in our hearts, we can choose instead to focus on God’s blessings. Through Jesus, we have been forgiven and given the gift of salvation. The Creator of the universe loves us, provides for us, and promises eternal life filled with joy. He also gives us strength to face every challenge.
With such amazing promises, what reason do we truly have to complain? By choosing gratitude, gentleness, and love, we bring encouragement to others and honor the Lord in our daily lives.